網紅的藏寶箱Happy International Women’s Day!!! Here’s to not needing one in the future!!
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I think this is for women who feel uncomfortable about this day. The ones who dont understand why women get a “special day” and men dont, who get uncomfortable with words like sexism, inequality, harrassment etc. I feel you.
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So, idk if this relates to you, but I’ll share from my experience. One of the things I realized I did, was that when I brought up an issue with someone, if they didnt agree, whether they did or didnt say i was the problem, i would immediately turn on myself. I would immediately think that I was the problem.
“I’m too sensitive. I’m overthinking. I must have said something wrong. It was my fault. How dare I.”
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I have since learned that actually, that’s not very balanced.
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Saw these quotes from @lizlistens shared by @createsaferelationships.
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“Being able to admit when you are at fault is one of the most important relationship skills you could ever develop.”
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“Being able to hold your ground when you’re not at fault is one of the most vital individual skills you could ever develop.”
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Whose dismissive voices had I internalized? Why was I so much more comfortable attacking and abandoning myself than listening to myself?
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Part of what i had to do was work on the why, and part of it was also looking for more balanced voices.
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These were some really nice examples for me so I thought I’d share them! If you are at a stage where you are still internalising outside voices as your own, and you dont believe or trust yours yet, i hope you find voices that believe respect, dignity, safety, equity, equal opportunites should be a given, not a privillege. And those voices exist.
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The voices that require us to turn on ourselves are not the only voices around.
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Dont turn on you. ♥️ Happy International Women’s Day ♥️
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